"A successful doula is comfortable with giving herself and is not afraid to love.  She can enter another's space and be highly responsive and aware of the mother's needs, moods, changes, and unspoken feelings.  At the same time, she is able to be flexible in this process, adapting herself to each mother's need and has no need to control or smother."

 

                                                                                            Mothering the Mother, by Marshall H. Klaus